Ever since then, I've been thinking about childhood friends, college buddies and family members. My whole world was opened to my past again. Amazing. Local and distant friends came out of the woodwork and boy was it fun to catch up.
But now I am having my first Face.book dilemma: To confirm or not to confirm someone?
I know, I know... aren't I overly sensitive?
My compassionate side says to accept everyone. But I'm not sure I want to start communicating regularly with every person (no matter how wonderful!) from my past or my present. I guess I feel overwhelmed by maintaining that many relationships at once. And I don't even have that many friends. :)
Then last week a person found me who I would rather not have found me. It scared me a little because I didn't post my maiden name. Which is why I keep my blog private.
So how do you use face.book? Do you confirm everyone? Any concerns with security?
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Hi Emily! Speaking of remembering people...hopefully you remember me...it HAS been a while!
Face.book is fun, but it IS kind of weird how people can just find you. Did you type in your maiden name anywhere when you signed up? My profile doesn't show my maiden name, but if someone typed in my maiden name to look for me, it would come up.
And I think the whole confirming thing is a common dilemma. I know some people from high school that just ask to be friends with everyone they went to high school with, regardless of whether or not they knew them. I just had a guy who graduated with me (but who I didn't talk to) ask me to be his friend. I did, because I didn't want to seem mean or anything like that, and then he sent me like 4 messages asking me if he knew me, and how. I wanted to say 'Why did you ask me to be your friend if you have no idea who I am?' There should be some Face.book etiquette.
Anyway...I'm going to go comment on some of your other posts. :)
Hey f.b. friend - my rule has become if we didn't talk then, we don't need to now. I just had a friend's little brother ask to be my friend. We were never friends. Denied. : ) A girl from my HS basketball team who was mean to me - denied. : ) I don't need to be used to up someone's friends number. Ha ha. Also check your privacy settings. My sister has hers set so that if you search her name she doesn't even come up. She only wants to find people that she wants to be in touch with. : )
That is SO funny - I just got one of those things tonight where someone I knew from high school suggested someone else I really didn't like very much. Part of me is curious to know what she's doing, but not curious enough to accept the request. But I, too, struggle with being rude over being particular about who I let into my life (although you wouldn't know that from my blog - ha ha).
I also have the dilemma of not understanding how it worked at first and "friending" people I really didn't want to be "friends" with. It's not like I can go back now and unfriend them for no reason. But I wish I had understood it better in the beginning. I'm not overly concerned with security, but so far I know everyone I'm "friends" with.
I do agree with Renee, though - there should be a Facebook etiquette guide.
Hmmm.
I initially joined b/c Jason's extended family was on there, and they don't blog so it was a great way for me to see pics of family and updates, etc.
But, it's been fun catching up with old college friends now, and I waste time sending flair and thinking of funny status messages. (not so much lately, cardboard mania! ;))
Anyway, a friend suggested a friend once that I don't want to be fb friends with, or otherwise, so I just ignored it. Honestly, I ignore stuff all the time. I don't want a growing garden. Or hugs. Sorry.
BTW, Jason's ex-girlfriend from high school/early college tried to friend him. ICK and ICK! Umm...sorry, sister.
I'm glad we're facebook friends! :)
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